The time that we have been waiting for over the last five years is finally here…we are about to board the plane to Turkey for more than just a vacation. We are starting the next, exciting chapter in our lives! I wanted to take a minute to answer some questions that everyone may have- particularly those who haven’t been part of our adventure until recently.
Why are you moving to Turkey?
Well, that isn’t a short story, but I will make it one.. my husband is a citizen of Turkey, and came to the US on a scholar visa (graduate education) in 2008. Now that he is done with school, his visa is no longer valid- which means it is time to go back to Turkey!
Can’t he get US citizenship?
Yes and no… because he is married to me he can apply for a green card. But, because he was on a J-1 visa he is required to spend 2 years back in his home country (Turkey) before any changes can be made to his visa status (read: J-1 to green card). So even if we wanted to live in the US permanently, two years would have to be spent in Turkey. Yes, a waiver can be given by Turkey for this home-stay requirement… but his situation basically assures they would not grant this waiver.
How long will you be there?
That’s a good question, and I don’t have the answer to that… but inshallah, forever! There are a lot of complicated facets to different time periods that must be met (e.g. 2 years because of the visa, 15 years because of other things…). Of course, if I am absolutely miserable in Turkey (inshallah not, and I believe that I won’t be) we will explore other options.
Where will you be living?
I can’t really tell you that, because where we will end up will likely be our home long-term. So, you know, for security… but I can tell you that we will likely spend a good bit of time in Izmir! We hope that hubby will be assigned to a western town, close-ish to Izmir 🙂
What are you going to do there?
Another answer that I don’t have… I know for at least a year I will simply be trying to adjust to Turkish life…the language, the culture, etc. After that year I should be eligible for Turkish citizenship due to the length of our marriage, and once I attain citizenship I will have many more options inshallah. But who knows, maybe we will start our family shortly- and I would prefer to be a stay at home mom.
Do you even want to live in Turkey?
Short answer: YES!
Long answer: Anyone who knows me well knows that I don’t do things that I don’t want to do. If I didn’t want to live in Turkey, I wouldn’t go. There are many things that I love about Turkey, and as a Muslimah I feel like Turkey is a great country to raise a family (some religion, but not too much). While going from an American life to a Turkish one will be quite the change, I see many benefits for me personally and for our future family that one can only find in Turkey.
Will you ever come back to the US?
Of course! It is my home, after all, and I do have family here. However, I foresee my trips to the US to be more vacation-like rather than a permanent move in the future. I don’t plan on relinquishing my US citizenship, so coming back for any length of time shouldn’t be a problem (besides the outlandish cost of a ticket 😡
Well, I think that pretty much sums up the majority of the questions I have been receiving…and now everyone is caught up! Inshallah I will be able to reveal more about the drama we have been going through since March…but it all really depends on how things unfold.
Oh! That’s the call for boarding! I guess I will see you guys tomorrow afternoon, in Turkey 🙂