A change of opinion

My husband and I have been enjoying the first two days of our vacation (mashallah), sunshine and blue skies!  This has been more than a break for us thusfar, it’s been a chance for us to think about our current situation as far as school is concerned. and where we want to go from here.   Last night we began looking at real estate for this area, just for fun.  How expensive is it to live on an island? Ofcourse, as you  can probably imagne, the prices ranged between 100k-300k, regardless of location on the island.  Well, what about in Turkey?  We then looked up real estate in the small ocean town where the in-laws have built a beach house (a long project that’s been around since before the hubby was born).  The price was still around 100k…turkish lira.  If you aren’t familiar with the conversion factor at this time (April 2014), it’s 2.13 (USD->TL). So that means… about 50K dollars.  WHAT?  yes. An Agean sea view apartment, 2 or 3 bedrooms, 50k dollars.

At this point the hubby shared with me that if we both could work in the US, even for one year, we could make more than twice that much together.  He expressed a desire to work in the US, even if it’s only for a few years.  Surely, he stated, this would give us a huge leg up financially in Turkey.  I nodded my head, smiling, then opened my mouth and said:

“But I wan’t to live in Turkey.”

Hm, since when did THAT happen?  I surprised myself with this candid statement.  He smiled and said that he knew that I would be happy living in Turkey.  But I still can’t help but wonder when my opinion on this matter became so concrete.  Turkey seemed like a cloud on the horizon, perhaps there is a silver lining somewhere- but it was a cloud none the less.  But now,  there is no doubt in my mind that I want to experience life in Turkey!  The food, the culture, the life style…I want it all!  Whether or not I could work in Turkey, I don’t know, but I know I wan’t to try!  Additionally, I miss my in-laws!  Being in University,  I am not close to either my in-laws or my own family.  Indeed, I don’t even hear from my own family as frequently as I hear from my in-laws (once a month/ every two weeks vs every weekend).  I’m not angry or accusing my family of not caring, they are simply busy, working, while my in-laws are retired.  Still, there is no doubt that I love them all, and living further and further away from my own family makes living in Turkey seem less difficult (on a personal front).

So where does that leave us now?  Well, struggling to finish our degrees seems to be the case.  He is still unsure if he can take his PhD at this rate, but I am always the encouraging voice in the background.  Hayirlisi olsun.  Whatever comes next is nasip.

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Teaching, The future, and World Hijab Day!

  I have been neglecting my blog as of late, but I don’t think anyone truely minds, since I am the only one who looks at it… 

  Anyway,  this term I have been teaching the food microbiology lab with three lovely ladies.  We have only officially taught one lab so far, but I think I like it!  As much as a claim to dislike people,  I like to answer questions and explain things to people who don’t understand.  I even threw some doodles on the white board to help explain how to conduct the experiment…I think it helped!  Smart mouths and slack are still irritating to me, but you know what?  Its not my grade! HAH!

 In regards to the future… My husband has been expressing his concerns about returning to Turkey.  The University he signed up under (the one in which he will teach when we return) is not exactly his first choice these days.  Actually, its pretty close to his last (not including those in a region he doesn’t want to travel to).  I tell him all he can do is his best, and if it is nasip (fate) he won’t have to teach there.  I am doing my best to obtain good grades, have good experiences, and prepare myself for a potential job in industry there.  We are hoping (insallah) that if I get a job in the city his family is from that will influence his options for placement when he returns (apparently that’s a thing in Turkey?).  All we can do is wait and see. Hayirlisi olsun.

Lastly, WORLD HIJAB DAY is on Feb 1! I encourage muslims and non-muslims alike to don the hijab for a day as a sign of solidarity with our hijabi sisters.  The hijab has been banned in a few countries, which is explicitely against human rights!  Let’s remind everyone that the right to wear a scarf on ones head belongs to everyone, regardless of race, religion, or country!  Check out the movement at worldhijabday.com or on facebook!